Bhopal, a melting point of emotions

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 How I survived it, how I fell in love with it

Makhanlal Chaturvedi National University of Journalism. PC-mcu.ac.in

“You should apply for Makhanlal Chaturvedi National University of Journalism in Bhopal, the oldest university of journalism in Asia,” said a cousin, who was also an alumnus. The seeds of desire for the buzzing ‘life in a metro’, with its glitz and glamour, had already been sown, and Bhopal did not fit into the scheme of things.  Little did I know 7 years down the road I would still be sitting in Bhopal and writing this!

It was evident for the parents of someone who was freshly in her 20s and setting a foot in the ‘big-bad-world’ for the first time, to pack a formidable list of advices along with the luggage. From ‘how to tame the hormones that go bonkers at this age’ to ‘how to not tarnish the family’s reputation’ were the lessons imparted by my grandmother before she deemed me prepared for the battlefield. And thus began the journey…

The army of bicycles parked outside the Bhopal Junction was the first thing to catch my fancy, followed by the chain of lakes. For a girl who had lived in almost a parallel universe and seen the world only through filters of North East and West Bengal, Bhopal came by as a shock; culturally , emotionally as well as intellectually. I could not decipher the meaning of ‘Ama Khan’ or why it was ‘pese’, ‘ese’, ‘aando’, ‘jaando’ in this part of the country. I did not know a state could be vegan (until I was made to spend two painful fish-less years in the college hostel). And it was near hysteria to know there existed a world where my undernourished Hindi would be put to test every day.

The first few months were tormenting; especially a hostel life of inconsiderate restrictions and the challenging mess food made it so. However, things eventually gave way. Homesickness got replaced by impish pranks in the hostel, friendship became filial and Bhopal started making more sense. College days became fun and hostel became a way of life.

A life that had only revolved around Guwahati started seeing skerrick of thrill in the narrow alleys of New Market, the picturesque road of VIP and also in the half-an-hour saunter from MCU to 7No.

VIP Road. PC-Adnan Ali

Two years passed in a jiffy and it was time to leave the city behind. However, before that could happen, destiny was all set with perhaps its ‘best laid plan’. During the last few months in the city an encounter happened; unprecedented and unfathomed. A meet with someone turned to many more and a saga unfolded.

Sunrise at Tekri. PC- Shayali Choudhury

Most of my friends who’ve been a part of the narrative of my life over the past few years have always acknowledged its downright semblance to ‘Wake up Sid’;  à la Ayesha Banerjee, I landed in the City of Lakes with the hope of becoming a journalist and eventually met my ‘Sid’. Barring a few exceptions in the script; my life looked like scenes neatly sliced out of the flick. An exciting new job in one of the biggest newspaper brands, a small flat with big glass windows overlooking a forest full of peacocks, and unbridled independence; life was bliss in all aspects. Only that my ‘Sid’ never moved in with me, and the wait to have his mother at my place with cartons of mangoes have been unmet in the last 5 years!

Every time a friend draws parallel between my life to the avant garde and rebellious Ayesha Banerjee, I am reminded of her ‘new girl in the city’. As a big fan of the movie and having watched it a zillion times, it would otherwise be needless to mention how I absolutely love the way she captivated the feeling of Mumbai in her words. I was greatly inspired by the piece and similarly wanted to pay a similar tribute to the amazing city Bhopal that has changed my life in ways more than one in the last few years.

Of course my ‘Sid’ was a paramount reason for making me fall hopelessly in love with the City of Nawabs, but there are reasons more than one.

Bhopal is special; so much so that I could hardly survive the national capital for even a year. Each week off would bring me back to Bhopal and the first thing I’d do after getting off the train is inhale the air that felt so crisp, sense the sounds that felt so familiar to the ears and admire everything that incited a feeling of belonging. And soon I returned to Bhopal, more appropriately was forced by my heart (that I had been denying for a while) to return to the ‘heart of India’. The last couple of months, i.e. since the time I quit my despicable job, I had every reason to move out and join the metropolitan brigade like my school and college mates. Finding a job outside Bhopal looked convenient, however, something held me back. Thanks to this place I love, it taught me to follow my heart. The compelling desire of staying back in Bhopal made me choose struggle over a life of comfort and ease.

A dazzling Bhopal. Pc- Adnan Ali

I have tried to reason out my love for Bhopal on several occasions, and when I sit to ponder upon it, I get a new ground every time. I don’t know if it’s the small apartment or the independence. May it is the ten-minute vigorous walk to the bus-stop every day to reach the office stuffed like chickens in 11 No., or may be the excitement of visiting the Bittan Market ‘haat’ with a jhola every Saturday, bargaining with fish-mongers and having the last word. Sometime it is the happiness of enjoying a good theatre day at Bharat Bhawan, also once a while it’s singing my heart out sitting pillion while my roomie zooms through the city in her modest purple scooty. That sparkling coffee at Starbucks could never match the taste of the leftover chocolate in the glass of cold coffee at Vishnu Chinese ( I like it more than Sagar Gaire) that has been a bone of contention between ‘him’ and me forever. A shoulder to rest upon and a comforting touch while watching the sun kiss the horizon during sunset at Kalisot or admiring it pop up from the skyline with a cup of steaming coffee at Tekri is an alien feeling elsewhere. Making small purchases at the regular craft fair at Gauhar Mahal is equally special as watching the latest animated movie with buddies at Cinepolis. And then there are midnight revelries; from storming to Nadra bus-stand for poha to put midnight hunger pangs to rest, to satiating the cardinal glutton in me by savouring the world’s most delicious tikkas and kebabs outside Moti Masjid.  Bhopal is as much as wandering without purpose on VIP road at the wee hours, as it is shopping at Chowk Bazaar for an extra saving. It is as much the ecstasy of window shopping at DB Mall as much as it is getting drenched in nostalgia while passing by the girls hostel of MCU each time. The sight of Bhopal Junction after a long trip is as welcoming as that of dropping by the friend’s music studio at MP Nagar in the dark and getting a song recorded without any rhyme or reason. Bhopal is watching with amusement the aesthete bongs at TT Nagar Kali Bari getting possessed by the soul of ‘Kobi Guru’ or ‘Bidrohi Kobi’ when ‘Poila Boishak’ or ‘Durga Pujo’ is around as much as it is travelling all the way to Piplani from Shahpura to enjoy ‘Roshogolla’ and ‘cham-cham’ at Gaurav Sweets and the unhygienic Bangali rolls at Babai Roll Centre. Bhopal is special because of the sudden getaway plans to Udaygiri or Raisen Fort, as much as it is being at my ‘Sid’s’ house to devour the extra helping of delicious Bangali meal his mom cooks. It is appreciating folk artistes at Lok Rang every January, as much as it is having the heart in the mouth sitting in a giant's wheel at Bhopal Utsav Mela every year or sitting alone and watching the lamest movie under the sun at Rangmahal, a friend's cinema hall that has also been a lynchpin of elation each time.

Deepotsav at Gauhar Mahal. PC- Shayali Choudhury

Raisen Fort. PC-ibhopal.blogspot.com

A cave at Udaygiri. PC- Shayali Choudhury

Lokrang. PC-Gagan Nayar

Durga Pujo at TT Nagar Kali Bari. PC- Samyamoy Debnath

Tribal Museum. Pc- Suyash Dwivedi

Manav Sangrahalaya. PC- goibibo.com

Still from a play at Bharat Bhawan. This photograph is a special one too. PC- Partha Dutta

Bhopal is special because of visiting friends during Eid as much as it is watching the night-sky getting painted during Diwali. Bhopal is the feeling of happiness seeing a temple and a mosque standing tall next to each other as much as it is the feeling of adrenaline rush spotting youngsters perform wheelies and stoppies or meddling with the mud on their assembled jeeps and Thars. The majestic view of the city with its cascading lakes from Birla Mandir makes Bhopal as much distinctive as being awe-struck by the opulence of Tribal Museum, Manav Sangrahalaya and the illuminated minars of Taj-ul-masajid. It is the excitement of capturing a ‘wild cat’ with mobile camera at Van Vihar, as much as it is enjoying a quiet dinner at the Kerwa Resort or flocking to Bhadbada every time the dam gate opens. Bhopal is the essence of purchasing an intrinsically designed ‘batua’ in Zari Zardozi as much as it is admiring people sitting and enjoying each other’s baloney at Kamla Park. It is equally special because of the ‘limited-yet-organic’ friends I’ve made over the years. Above all, Bhopal is special for its people, the most humble and hospitable lot in the world, especially the one who’s held my hand firm in all these years, making it a chimerical voyage so far.

Patiabazi near Kamla Park. PC- hindustantimes.com

The majestic Taj ul Masajid. PC-T.Khan Fotography

Adrenaline Rush. PC- Team Bhopal Stunt Riders

When I think of it, Bhopal for me is more than a city; it is an everlasting emotion, a volley of feelings that I’ve ensnared over the last seven years. Bhopal is a conscious choice, not a compulsion. It is the urge of unconditionally loving the city I adopted; the city that adopted me.

PS- This is a post-dated piece as technically I completed 7 years in the state capital of the ‘heart of India’ on July 15.

7 ज्ञान from a day at Simhastha

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Ujjain sounded fascinating from the time I read the Oath of Vayuputras. Amish Tripathi’s sensory description of one of the oldest cities of the world made it a must visit and Simhastha, the Maha Kumbh, looked like the ideal reason to be there.

I read it somewhere that a whooping amount of approx Rs 3000 crores was spent in the carnival held from April 22 to May 21. The grandeur of the setup completely justified the amount. From the colossal Greece-style columns adoring the entrance of Ujjain to the spick and span streets, the arrangements for the ‘sadhus’ at the ghats to the huge number of police deployment, the amount invested was pertinent everywhere.

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When you live in the state where such a mega event is underway, it is needless to mention that the Maha Kumbh becomes the only fodder for the state media and the national ones to an extent. From the meaning of Simhastha to its purpose (for more details refer to http://www.mptourism.com/pdf-html/simhastha/index-su.html), from the Narmada-Kshipra Sihastha Link Pariyogna to the controversies enveloping the religious gala, the ‘shahi snan’ (royal bath) to ‘vichar mahakumbh’, the appreciable management to the fiasco leading to deaths owing to inclement and erratic weather, there is hardly a thing that did not find substantial space in some corner of the newspapers or a slot on news channels.

It was challenging to write about something that was not yet written or speak about something yet to be spoken. Thus, I thought of adding a personal touch to it as that was the best an apolitical person could do.

A travelogue I once read about things needed to be done once in a lifetime found mention of visiting a Kumbh. It said being at a Kumbh could be an epiphany. I wasn’t a witness to the ‘Vichar Mahakumh’ and life-changing of not, the journey and experience of a day in the ‘land of Kshipra’ did have its share of lessons for me.

Source-The Quint

1. Nirvana comes by taking a dip in holy water rather than helping the poor and needy with alms

While the mass assemblage was busy washing off their sins at the banks of Kshipra, only a few paid heeds to the needy sitting outside the venue, hungry. Of course, taking a dip in the river was a more plausible way of ‘moksh prapti’!

2. Never trust someone else’s source

Unlike my plan of being at the Simhastha during the inauguration, I finally managed to be there on the concluding day after bouts of persuasion here and there. As journalists, we know the importance of ‘a source’. While it is importance in showing confidence in your source, trusting somebody else’s could land you in a soup.

3. Good planning is one that comes with a backup plan

When you want something, it is always judicious to have a backup plan for it. Why bank on plan A alone when there are so many more alphabets?

 4. In life there could be a time when things are beyond your control and you can hardly do anything about it

Well, this has a small story to it. We were a mix-age group of seven; three in their 50s, one in her early 30s while three of us in our 20s. The walk of around 6kms sounded difficult to the elderly and thus it was decided that we would hire a hand-pulled cart that had started operating to manage the crowd deftly. I was vehemently opposed to the idea of being manoeuvred to the Ram Ghat (the main venue) by a middle-aged cart puller who pushed it from the back while a little kid and a youngster pulled it ahead and made way for the vehicle through the humongous traffic. It crushed my heart to see a kid bear the brunt of our cumulative weight, en route to our journey towards ‘nirvana’. However, there was nothing I could do as I did not want to sound obstinate.

A realization dawned upon me that certain things in life can go out of control and there is little you can do about it.

On a lighter note…

5. Growing in a place like Guwahati can come to your rescue in ways more than that you could imagine

All who has seen been a part of Durga Puja in Kolkata and Guwahati, Ambubashi in Kamakhya Temple, managed to walk through the first local at Howrah station or for that matter even survived through a walk in Sadar Bazaar, Old Delhi, just ahead of Diwali can remain unfrazzled  even in the largest conglomeration ever.

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6. You can survive an event even without announcing it on the social media

This isn’t intended at taking a jibe at anyone, but I realised it wasn’t so difficult to survive an event without posting a ‘paap dhoying’ waala selfie or enlightening the world with Facebook check-ins, live and loud from Ujjain.

7. Duniya mein ‘paapiyon’ ki kami nahin hain

It is not only Nawazuddin Siddique in the trailers of Te3N who is in pursuit of absolute redemption. I don’t know if they were in lakhs or in crores, but all that Ujjain saw on the last day of the ‘Shahi Snan’ were people; here, there, everywhere. The large confluence of devotees, that also included myself was a testament to how each one of us is driven by the desire of redemption and can brave even a sweltering summer and unruly crowd to seek it!

 

Source- patrika.com

Joblessness; how it happened

The night was a little less busy than the usual ones. So, I decided to catch up on a cousin in another part of the country over the phone. She was quick to receive in the third ring and we started discussing the turn of events since our last conversation almost 4 months back. This is how it followed:

She- How have you been? Seem to be really engrossed!

Me- Well, yes, you could say so. I am good. How are you doing? What about my niece and nephew?

She- They are doing fine. The younger one’s a monkey ass.  Getting hard to handle. The elder one is at least considerate, I must say. But it’s not so easy to handle kids. It’s the toughest job under the sun.

Me- I understand.

She- No, you won’t. Not unless you have one.

Me- Well, I do have one.

She- Little sis trying to pull up a joke?

Me- I am serious.

She- Are you stoned?

Me- C’mon, you know I am a teetotaller.

She- Could you please elaborate your last statement then? (I could feel her tone getting jumpy this time).

Me- I have often heard this ‘have a kid and you will understand’. Pardon me for sounding profane, but the kind of effort you, my friends or for that matter our parents have put in to bring up their children, I put in the same to my job. Both the projects I’ve worked in so far have been nothing short of a nurturing a baby. Hence, you could vouch by my experience.

She- I think your work is taking a toll on your mental health. I suggest you take a trip to hills and relax your nerves. May be that could help you keep such gibberish at bay.

Me- I am in no need of a break. All I want is to make people, especially the ones who feel I am making the most of my li

fe by choosing singlehood at 28, understand why all of this is not hunky dory, though it might look like. Trust me Didi, putting up alone in a city and managing a job is not really different from rearing a baby, except for the fact that you at least are happy with the latter. I can actually drive in the similarities from my conversation with all my ‘newly-mom’ friends. Let me try to explain.

A says she hasn’t been able to sleep since childbirth. I haven’t been able to sleep since my new job, courtesy the imprudent organisation which has no regards for its employees whatsoever and keeps them occupied with tension of workload even when asleep. B says she hasn’t been able to take a self-indulgent shower or enjoy a peaceful dinner. I forgot the last time I indulged in some ‘Me-Time’.  C says her toddler has ensured nothing in the house remains in place. Everyone thought I was badly inflicted with OCD; but that was before I got a job. Now things lie haywire and I neither have the time nor the interest to set them straight. For D it’s chasing the tiny tot whole day long that drains her energy by the evening. After chasing the stories and deadlines throughout the day, the only thing that makes sense to me when I get back home is the comfort of the bed. E says motherhood is a constant duty, where you need to be on your toes. Putting in efforts to the best of your ability, 7 days a week and always prepared to get a call from the office to drop by anytime, might not sound quite intriguing after all. F says motherhood certainly is the best phase of her life. If only she could still party around or go clubbing. With the baby becoming your priority, every other enjoyment stops making sense. Not that I am a party animal, however, since I started earning enough to pay taxes double the amount I once did, I’ve forgotten to keep a tab on the new clubs and restaurants coming up or the old ones shutting down for good. Lastly, G’s only concern is about losing the baby fat and getting back in shape enough to sneak into that LBD. It was 46 the last time I stood on the weighing machine some four months back. Last week when I impulsively got on one of the roadside ones, I was taken aback to see it stubbornly stop at 50. There’s hardly any time for stretching or bending. Need I say more?

Candidly, as parents you still have a partner to share duties. However, I have to grin and bear with the buttload of responsibilities all by myself. Also, you at least have the satisfaction of seeing your little one grow and people waxing eloquent. Unfortunately, it is only a one-way process here, where  no matter the amount of endeavour you’ve put in, there’s always someone else ready to enjoy your success that he/she has achieved as a fluke.

Do I make sense now?

She- I feel its high time you quit this job. May be then we should talk.

The line snaps… her last sentence haunting...